Text me when you get home : the evolution and triumph of modern female friendship / Kayleen Schaefer.

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      Summary: "Text me when you get home." After joyful nights out together, female friends say this to one another as a way of cementing their love. It's about safety; but more than that, it's about solidarity. A personal and sociological examination--and ultimately a celebration--of the evolution of female friendship in pop culture and modern society.
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      Why women tell each other, "text me when you get home" -- The friendships that shaped our own -- Mean girls and nice girls -- All about the boys -- A new focus on friendships -- Our BFFs, people, and soulmates -- Strength in numbers -- How our friendships end, change, and endure.
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      Includes bibliographical references (pages 269-271).
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Booklist Reviews 2018 January #1

Here's a book to devour in two sittings. Half memoir, half cultural analysis, Schaefer's exploration of female friendship draws readers in with familiar scenarios and pop-culture references. Through historical research, interviews, popular media, and her own experiences, Schaefer chronicles how the importance of female friendships has changed over time. She begins by discussing her mother's focus on her husband and family before addressing her own early reluctance to rely on female friends. After a significant breakup, Schaefer realized how critical her friendships were and began cultivating them with new purpose. Throughout, Schaefer analyzes how female friendships are represented in films and TV, from Beaches to Mean Girls and Broad City. At times, readers will wish her analysis went deeper, such as when she discusses trying to be "one of the boys," and that she would delve further into how women learn to value men's culture as "serious" while devaluing anything feminine. Readers of all generations will enjoy her engaging writing and may see their own friendships reflected in her stories. Copyright 2018 Booklist Reviews.

LJ Reviews 2017 October #1

What does female friendship mean today? Something different from what it used to mean, when women competed with nails unsheathed and dumped their girlfriends as soon as Mr. Right came along. There's even a Galentine's Day, the unofficial female friendship holiday on February 13. Journalist Schaefer draws on research and personal anecdote to assay this bright new world.

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LJ Reviews 2018 January #1

Following decades of white, middle-class couples who turned inward for companionship, Schaefer posits that modern women of this class and race are now looking outward and raising the value of friendships to that of other serious relationships. Telling someone "text me when you get home" is a way of continuing the conversation and letting friends know you care, as well as a method for friends to stay connected in one another's lives. Whereas female friendships were once stereotyped as disposable or competitive by scholars and the media, the subsiding of these classifications is the basis for Schaefer's work. The author successfully weaves the stories of her life and her mother's into a narrative of the changes that have occurred through time. She discusses her own path to modern female friendship: first as a competitive youth, then trying to fit in with a male-dominated workplace, and finally a self-proclaimed awakening to the power of female relationships. VERDICT Schaefer provides an engaging, deeply researched sociological perspective into the evolution of female friendships. Consider purchasing where women's studies topics circulate well.—Mattie Cook, Lake Odessa Comm. Lib., MI

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